When you first announce that you’re up the duff, every man and his dog is waiting to give you advice. It’s like everyone in the universe who’s ever been pregnant is suddenly an expert in all things baby. Like a never ending fountain of knowledge which you never asked for. As a first time mama it can be extremely daunting – and also very fucking annoying!
All off a sudden your best friends sister is recommending a parenting book she couldn’t have survived without. Your work colleague can’t wait to give you the 411 on hypnobirthing. Even the random woman in Superdrug who sees you scoping out breast pads just has to have her say (true story). But just how much of this crap do you actually need? Is it really worth blowing your budget on all these baby essentials?
Just google newborn baby essentials and you’ll be met with a barrage of different websites. Their lists may appear helpful to unsuspecting parents. However they all pretty much claim that purchasing the entire contents of your local Mothercare is necessary if you stand any chance of succeeding as parent. Trust someone who’s on first name terms with the staff – no matter how much money you spend on a changing table, you’ll still end up with shit on your hand and they’ll have outgrown it within a year!
The Pram – Used by date 2 years…if you’re lucky
Lets face it a pram is essential. It’s also more than likely going to be one of the biggest purchases you make. That said it’s not necessary to spend a fortune. The majority of new travel systems will set you back the best part of a grand. If you’re anything like me you’ll use it for six months. Decide it’s too much hassle to dismantle to put in the car and downgrade to a buggy before your child’s first birthday! At best you’ll use it until the toddler days descend upon which the downstairs loo will become its permanent residence.
The Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep – Used by date 1 year
When Ryan first told me about the perfect prep I was less than impressed. That said I have to admit it made our lives considerably easier. Who in their right mind wants to make a bottle the old-fashioned way at 3am? It may only be necessary until you introduce cow’s milk but if you want my opinion it’s £50 well spent.
The Baby Sling – Used by date when your little monkey gets too chunky!
I can’t offer any pearls of wisdom when it comes to baby slings as dare I say it, I’m a baby wearing virgin! It was surprising to find that some slings apparently accommodate kids up to the age of 3. I applaud any mother who can carry their child at that age for prolonged periods of time. I’d have all on strapping Rory in let alone lugging him round and he’s not even 2!
The Moses Basket – Used by date a couple of months
It was one of the last items we bought so with our bank balance dwindling we opted for a cheap a cheerfu model. Lucky really considering our stupidly looooong child outgrew it by 3 months. Shockingly some Moses baskets retail for upwards of £200. A costly expense for the sake of a few months.
The Manual Breast Pump – Used by date a few minutes into your first pump
While I agree a breast pump is an essential part of any new mummy kit, one thing I will say is don’t waste your time with a manual pump. They may be cheap and handy to carry around but do any of you really want to express manually? Go for the electric pump. Just don’t let your in-laws fork out hundreds of pounds only for you to switch to formula a week later (another true story).
The Baby Walker – Used by date a couple of months
I recon we were late to the party when it comes to baby walkers, nothing new there! It felt like no sooner did Rory learn how to move the darn thing, he hated to be sat in it! There was a short period of time between sitting and crawling where the baby walking was his preferred method of transport. Yet as soon as he mastered crawling it was goodbye baby walker, hello fingers in everything!
Lets face it, there’s a lot of crap we spend our money on that doesn’t get the wear. Babies grow so quickly that something which was essential one week is just gathering dust the next. If you’re looking to save a few bob be savvy and buy second hand. Think about it logically, the mug before you paid full price and it’s barely out of the box. It may not have the same appeal as buying new but at least when it comes to assembling said baby item it comes ready made! Good news if your other half isn’t a dab hand with instructions…like mine.
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