The Last Time : You’ll Only Know When it’s too Late

The Last Time: When the last moment does happen you won't realise until it's too late

You won’t know that it’s the last time until it never happens again

When I was pregnant I remember reading a post on Facebook. It was one of those picture quotes. The type you’re likely to swipe past in a hurry, the type you’ve probably read before. I can’t quite remember the exact wording however the general gist was not to underestimate how much you’ll miss your children’s late night cuddles when their older. It was clearly aiming to capture the hearts of sleep deprived parents but that one line stayed with me. As my due date grew closer I couldn’t help myself thinking back to the post.

Could this be the last time he wakes me up with hiccups? Could this be the last time I listen to his little heart beat inside my belly? 

It’s safe to say when D-day actually arrived and Rory was unwillingly pulled from my VaJJ – with a pair of forceps designed to aid the birth of baby elephants – I did NOT think….could this be the last time I ever feel a contraction?

Aside from my brilliant support network, this Facebook post deserves a lot of praise. It was with me through the hazy newborn days, through weaning, teething and returning to work. Helping me to keep my shit firmly together even on the shittest of days.

The Last Time: When the last moment does happen you won't realise until it's too late

As Rory grows this one line still stays with me. It’s a reminder to savour the good times, the sloppy kisses and the wobbly first steps. The tastes of new foods and the trips to the seaside. But more importantly it’s a light in the dark and difficult day’s.

I know a day will come – probably a lot sooner than I expect – when he no longer wakes in the night and cries for his Mommy. When he can brush his own teeth and no longer wants to hold my hand. The things which once tested my patience and pushed me to my parenting limit will just be a thing of the past. I’ll long for the things which were once frustrating, the days where he’d spend 22 hours on my right hip. The days when he needed me to wipe his snotty nose and put on his socks.

So for now I just try to treat every moment like it’s the last. When the last moment does happen you won’t realise until it’s too late.

 

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46 Comments

  1. May 15, 2017 / 9:20 am

    Such a beautiful, beautiful post. With my three as teenagers now this really resonated. So many lasts gone over the years. I adore who they have become but those lasts are thought-provokingly heartbreaking! Make the absolute most of them! #BigPinkLink

  2. May 15, 2017 / 10:32 am

    I remember my cousin telling me something similar when my son was little. You never know when that last time will be, and that’s the beauty of it in a way. But I agree, it’s a ray of hope sometimes, to get you through the dark days – knowing that everything is a phase that will be grown out of before you know it. I hope I can remember this more second time around! #bigpinklink
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  3. May 15, 2017 / 11:31 am

    This is so lovely!!! I still feel this way about everything my youngest does and she was 9 yesterday, although with every little behaviour that stops there’s usually something new to come along to bridge the gap!!#postsfromtheheart
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  4. May 15, 2017 / 11:48 am

    This is beautiful. My eldest turns 9 next week and so true that they grow so quick. Thanks for linking for #marvmondays x
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  5. May 15, 2017 / 12:22 pm

    This is a lovely post and so true. Its so important to take time to drink in the moment. They really do grow up so fast! #AnythingGoes
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  6. May 15, 2017 / 8:22 pm

    The first times are the best and noticed and you normally won’t notice the last as last until you pause and look back. So many beautiful moments with our babes. #MarvMondays
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  7. May 15, 2017 / 9:29 pm

    As I expected – a gorgeous post. I need to remember this when I’m having a bad day and Little Man has the attitude of a teenager! I won’t always have these afternoons with him. September is looming and I just know I’ll be longing to have my ‘baby’ back. Excuse me while I go and have a little sob! #AnythingGoes
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  8. May 15, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    Aww I love this, it’s so so true x

  9. May 15, 2017 / 10:11 pm

    What a lovely way to stay positive. My oldest are ten and my youngest is two weeks old. I savor every moment with my two babies as my older children are a reminder of how quickly they grow up xxxx

  10. May 15, 2017 / 11:42 pm

    Such a lovely post! My little boy is 3 next week and I honestly don’t know where the time has gone! There have been so many things lately that I look back on and wish I’d realised it was the last time they’d happen.

    Treasure every moment xx
    #anythinggoes

  11. May 16, 2017 / 6:31 am

    This is such a lovely post!! #TwinklyTuesday

  12. May 16, 2017 / 11:06 am

    My little man turns 3 next week. I can’t believe how fast it has flown. And when I get frustrated cause he still wakes in the night sometimes wanting mummy, I remind myself he won’t always want mummy’s hugs and then I’ll miss it!

    Lovely post. #twinklytuesday

  13. Nige
    May 16, 2017 / 12:05 pm

    Beautiful posts the lasts go so quickly wonderful read #dreamteam

  14. May 16, 2017 / 12:06 pm

    And it will come sooner than you think my lovely…..my 2 are teenagers and I yearn for them when they were younger. #twinklytuesday

  15. May 16, 2017 / 12:09 pm

    Everyone says it goes by so quickly and in a heartbeat it does. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and emotions!

  16. May 16, 2017 / 12:15 pm

    This is just the kind of post I needed to read right now as I’ve had some pretty bad days dealing with my threenager recently #TwinklyTuesday

  17. May 16, 2017 / 4:13 pm

    Oh this one resonates so much with me – Emma is only two and I’m already noticing that there are moments that seem to be our last and I wasn’t prepared for it! For sure, over the past few months we have a little girl instead of a baby and that’s such a bittersweet feeling. #postsfromtheheart & also #dreamteam

  18. May 16, 2017 / 9:13 pm

    This is lovely. So easy to wish the time away. Thanks for the lovely reminder to savour the moments #TwinklyTuesday

  19. May 17, 2017 / 7:08 am

    I think that’s true about a lot of things in life. We don’t appreciate them fully at the time. We often busy rushing to the next thing not thinking about the moment we are in. I should imagine it’s worse with kids.

    Sally @ Life Loving

  20. May 17, 2017 / 11:38 am

    I know just how quickly things go. My son is 18 now and it has been a long while since he has wanted to hold my hand lol. Lucky My daughter still (for the moment) want to hold my hand and have cuddles, I savour each one.
    #TriumphantTales
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  21. May 17, 2017 / 12:35 pm

    Popping over from #TriumphantTales to say Hi.
    The last of my babies, turned 18 last month and finishes school this year, there are so many other 1sts and lasts to cherish, first job, new girlfriend, passing driving tests, holidays to visit mum etc etc, it just changes and it’s still just as much fun.
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  22. May 17, 2017 / 2:37 pm

    I think about this often. I’ve only got the one, so every first time is also a last in a way #triumphanttales

  23. May 18, 2017 / 6:43 am

    Oh sob sob sob! We’ve had so many ‘lasts’ now that I’ve even forgotten some of them! But then we get brand new ‘firsts’ to take our mind off it. You definitely do want to cling to those momemnts though don’t you? Thanks for linking up with the #bigpinklink this week.

  24. May 18, 2017 / 11:25 am

    Gosh, this is so, so true! I really felt this when we stopped breastfeeding. It was the baby’s choice, and so I never knew our last time was going to be our last time and I miss it a lot. I’m fortunate that I have a photo of our last time as I was conscious that every feed could be our last, but I still don’t really remember it! So it makes me grateful for every little thing we do together, as at 22 months he’s getting very strong willed and independent and doesn’t need mummy’s help anymore! Even though he’s not my last baby, these are the last times I’ll do things with him, so still difficult. #MarvMondays

  25. May 18, 2017 / 7:17 pm

    Oh so beautiful and poignant! It’s such a grounding thought isn’t it? I might just need to pop back upstairs and give my two another little squish. Thanks for sharing this with #DreamTeam lovely x
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  26. May 18, 2017 / 8:01 pm

    Aww, this is such a lovely way to look at the harder parts of parenting! #MarvMondays
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  27. May 18, 2017 / 9:41 pm

    As a mum with 2 teens, I look back so fondly on all those baby days – so easy, even when they were boring or hideous. So yes, hang on to them, because waking up during the night is probably the easiest part of parenting that there is!! #Stayclassymama

  28. May 18, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    This is totally where I am at the moment. Zach has just stopped breastfeeding and to be honest I feel slightly heartbroken and like less than a mum. Silly as he (and my older 2) still needs me so much but this one little thing makes me feel so sad. #stayclassymama
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  29. May 19, 2017 / 8:35 am

    Love this. I have also seen these ‘is it the last’ posts. I am unsure if we will have another baby, I would love too, I always pictured myself with 3. OH has come round to the idea, but nothing has been decided. I keep thinking if she is my last I haven’t etched those last feeling in my memories….I’m just gonna have to have another I think haha.

  30. May 20, 2017 / 11:35 am

    I remember reading something similar. It has helped me through many sleepless nights and even now where I would like to give up breastfeeding (he’s 27 months) I also know that he’ll soon enough wean himself and then that closeness will be no more. Lovely way to look at things #postsfromtheheart

    Nadia x

  31. May 20, 2017 / 5:03 pm

    Wow , you have really made me stop and think. Harry is just turning 5 and is still glued to me everywhere we go. He still jumps in my bath with me and loves a morning cuddle in our bed but one day he won’t want to and will be too ‘grown’ up . That made me feel sad #Postsfromtheheart

  32. May 21, 2017 / 9:27 pm

    Beautiful. I agree, having recently had my 3rd and final baby I am trying to cherish every moment. #marvmondays

  33. May 22, 2017 / 1:50 pm

    This has been playing on my mind a lot given Ben is turning one tomorrow. But today when i gave him a bottle as he was super tired he let me cradle him and he played with my necklace. All the memories came flooding back and I savoured every moment of that bond and throwback i had. God knows when i’ll get a moment like that again!!!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back again tomorrow.

  34. May 22, 2017 / 11:45 pm

    What a sweet post! Oh to save every moment! I love this! #dreamteam xo

  35. May 23, 2017 / 8:39 am

    It’s so hard to realise that you will miss these days when you have only had two hours sleep and have to go into work the next morning. I try really hard to remember that this is a phase and will be over. For instance, this week Bear has been ill with a fever and waking up. For a second I did feel happy that he wanted to snuggle (as he never usually does when he’s feeling well), and it made me forget I haven’t slept properly! You’re so right this post is a great reminder to appreciate these moments : ) Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!
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  36. May 24, 2017 / 1:56 pm

    This post really hit home. My eldest is 4 and has been regressing a little lately, asking to be carried to his room for bedtime etc. I thought about telling him he was too old for that one evening when I was tired but then I realised, how much longer have I got left to carry him? He will be 5 this year and start school… I may only have a short time left of him being my ‘baby’ so I’m damn well going to indulge and enjoy it! xx #postsfromtheheart
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  37. May 25, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    It’s only been 8 months and it’s gone too fast already. It’s true, the things that once annoyed me, I now miss. #PostsFromTheHeart

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