When Terrorism gets Personal

Yesterday morning I cried on the drive into work. Waking to such terrible news filled me with an overwhelming sadness. I can only imagine the agony a parent most feel at the loss of a child but for someone to take them in such a barbaric way must be like pure torture. It’s a depressing fact but terrorism is part of our lives. For a long time ISIS have dominated the headlines. Stories of pain and suffering fill our newspapers. While each one is just as harrowing as the next, this time it feels different. When it happens on your doorstep, that’s when terrorism gets personal.

When I came home from work on Tuesday we did bath time as normal. Before bed we laid together, just for a couple of minutes. Anyone who has small children will tell you how sacred those few minutes are. It’s not often that they sit still long enough for you to appreciate them but it was almost like he knew. Like he could sense that Mommy just needed a some time to cherish him. It was at that moment I said it…

Mommy will never let anyone hurt you 

As parents it’s our responsibility to protect our children but are we making promises that we can’t keep? How is it possible to keep them safe when their growing up in a world where terrorism is rife? In a world where 22 year old men strap bombs to their chests with the sole intention of ruining lives. In a world where spending time with their friends could have the same consequences as fighting a war. 

Here I am making promises to keep my child safe when less than 40 miles away people are desperately searching for their loved ones!

So where do we go from here? How do we safeguard our children?

Should we be wrapping them in cotton wool? Will keeping them at arm’s length protect them from the harsh dangers of the modern world. 

When I look at Rory, he is still a very small child. At 15 months his innocence means he has no concerns or worries. Unfortunately for parents with older children this is not the case. I know a time will come when he’ll ask questions and I’ll have to try to find words which are suitable for someone so young and impressionable. I’ll have to explain to the small boy who I have grown and nurtured, that there are terrible people in this world. People who do bad things and hurt undeserving victims. How do you even begin to explain that to such a susceptible mind?

And what about the questions?

With the suffering comes the questions. 

Why did it happen? What was the purpose? Why those people? What did they achieve? Will it happen again? How do we stop it happening again? How do we carry on?

These are questions which will more than likely remain unanswered. Questions which those left behind will no doubt ask for the rest of their lives.

So tonight as you go home to your families, as you’re making dinner and your kissing them goodnight spare a thought for the 22 families who aren’t so fortunate. 

Terrorism gets Personal - Tonight as you go home to your families, as your making dinner and your kissing them goodnight spare a though for the 22 families who aren't so fortunate.


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  1. May 24, 2017 / 8:23 am

    its just so devastating. Really does make you worry for the kids’ future

  2. May 24, 2017 / 8:57 am

    I’m currently sat with my son curled into me while he watches Peppa Pig. I cannot imagine being in the situation of those parents & I dread the day he asks about it. #BloggersClubUk

  3. May 24, 2017 / 9:21 pm

    It’s heartbreaking. I do hope we ask why this is happening and how we can explore where this anger is coming from. #BloggersClubUK

  4. May 25, 2017 / 8:20 am

    What a week it’s been. It’s left me speechless. It’s all beyond comprehension. I just feel so desperately sad for the people who have lost their lives, their families, their friends. They didn’t deserve this. #stayclassy

  5. May 25, 2017 / 9:12 am

    It’s been a heartbreaking week – I talked to my 8 year old this morning as she said she felt scared after what’s happened. And like you, I told her I’d keep her safe but as I said it, I knew I couldn’t be 100% sure that I can keep this promise as much as I’ll do everything in my power to do so. Those parents who have tragically lost their children will have said exactly the same. #ablogginggoodtime

  6. May 25, 2017 / 11:59 am

    This has been so terrible and you’re right there are so many heartbreaking questions it throws up which I wouldn’t even know where to begin to answer. One thing I know though – it certainly puts everything into perspective. Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub my lovely xoxo

  7. May 25, 2017 / 1:08 pm

    We talked to the Tubblet about it as she has been to similar concerts. She’s scared but determined to carry on doing the things she likes. Which seems a good response. So sad about what happened 🙁 I can’t understand it either

  8. May 25, 2017 / 2:54 pm

    I also struggled with the idea of ‘keeping my daughter safe’. In reality, we can hide under a rock and maybe we’ll be safe. Maybe. But that’s not living. I refuse to be forced into hiding in my home, but equally, I must admit that I do think twice about going to places that seem likely targets. :-/ #ablogginggoodtime

  9. May 25, 2017 / 7:06 pm

    I have hugged my little girl so much this week. It’s just awful and like you say how do you answer those questions? We aren’t in a situation for questions just yet but I am sure they will come. So sad. Just watched an Instagram story on this by tobyandroo. So tough with kids and questions but reminding us to remind them of the good people in the world. #ablogginggoodtime

  10. May 25, 2017 / 7:48 pm

    I think this has hit so many people really hard. To target children and young people so deliberately is just so cruel and callous. I’m so grateful to have my family safe and well, and also to know that, at least for the moment, I don’t have to answer those tough questions from my son. Because I definitely don’t know the answers to them and I’m not sure how best to explain it. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  11. May 25, 2017 / 8:08 pm

    I’ve been struggling with my feelings all week and I am scared. But I also have older children who are asking those questions. They mostly want to know that they are safe. I did look on the BBC newshound website as it has advice for parents/children. I have been honest with my sons but I have also tried to make them feel safe too. It is hard but I have tried to focus on those helping, those who opened their door and cars and arms to strangers. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime ?

  12. May 25, 2017 / 8:44 pm

    It really is so sad. Thankfully my girls are too young to really understand at the moment, but there will be another time – and that’s the frightening thing. All we can do is keep them safe to the best of our ability so that they know whatever happens “out there”, they have a safe place to come home to and someone to share all their fears and pain with #ablogginggoodtime

  13. May 25, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    This has shaken and upset more than anything has for a long time, it has really put things in perspective. What a terrible, unnecessary, cruel act xx #coolmumclub

  14. May 25, 2017 / 10:02 pm

    I also cried on the way to work on Tuesday and have shed a few tears every day since. There are no words. Pen x #coolmumclub

  15. May 26, 2017 / 1:51 pm

    I definitely think as a parent these things hit me harder than before I had children. It makes me terrified for them and my heart breaks to think of the parents who are now facing a very different future to the one they imagined. I can’t get my head around the attack at all, it’s too awful.

  16. May 26, 2017 / 5:08 pm

    It saddens me greatly that we live in a world where people do such terrible things to each other. My heart breaks for the families affected and I can’t even begin to imagine what they are going through.
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂

  17. May 26, 2017 / 11:38 pm

    It is horrific. My best friend lives in Manchester, and I know she’s already concerned about her 4 year old and the potential there is for him getting mixed up in the wrong people when he’s older, and the worry with not getting a good school. Now terrorism as well, no wonder she’s been talking about moving back to her home town where it’s a lot quieter. #sharingthebloglove

  18. May 27, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    It’s just so heartbreaking. You are right though, how are we suppose to safeguard our children when it feels like no one and nowhere is our of reach for these small minded bullies that have total disregard for human life. It really worries me and it has kept me awake many nights but one must not live in fear because then we won’t be able to live at all. Thank you for sharing with #StayClassyMama

  19. May 28, 2017 / 6:20 am

    Deliberately targeting children is so barbaric it’s beyond comprehension. There are terrible people in this world, but you’ve only got to look at all those who offered help in Manchester to realise that the good far far outweigh the bad and that is why terrorism will never win x

  20. May 28, 2017 / 10:02 pm

    It’s devastating and I still can’t get my head around what has happened and how they deliberately targeted children. It affected me so much this week, it’s so sad. I’m just incredibly grateful to have my family safe and that they are too young and live in their own little bubble. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  21. May 30, 2017 / 12:32 pm

    I dread the day mine are old enough to ask questions and to understand. When this blissful naivety they have at the moment is taken from them by some heinous act such as the Manchester attack. For the first time I have been rocked by this, it has really stayed with me. It worries me for the future, for my children and it is overwhelmingly sad. I hope nobody ever has to go through anything like that and that we can keep our children safe going forward. #ablogginggoodtime

  22. May 31, 2017 / 6:32 pm

    every parent’s worst nightmare. A sobering reminder that we just never know anymore, that for all out wishing we really can’t keep them safe. Sad times #KCACOLS

  23. June 1, 2017 / 8:21 pm

    WHo in a million years would ever think that the world would leave us with children, our children asking such questions. Stay strong. Be empathic, and live every moment. #KCACOLS

  24. June 5, 2017 / 9:31 am

    Horrifying isn’t it. The behaviour of the Islamic State appears so irrational I just don’t think there’s any reasoning with them. I really can’t see what the answer is to end all of this or how they can be stopped.

    Feeling truly devastated for the families whose lives have been taken or affected by the atrocities caused by I.S 🙁

    Thanks for linking up.

  25. June 5, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    I also found myself telling my son that he was safe with me and I would never let anyone hurt him. It’s easy to say things to calm them, but tbh it’s not all truth #kcacols

  26. June 6, 2017 / 9:23 pm

    The night of the 22nd I was asleep till my OH woke me to the news at about 11pm. First thing I did was reach for my phone and check family and friends had got out and were all safe. I then sat and watched the nights events unfold in total shock. I had to talk to my children Tuesday morning and explain to them in a way they would understand (Kaitlin aged 12 and Jack aged 8) Kaitlin had friend who were there as well. It was right on our doorstep and seemed all that bit more real than it just being on the news I cried and cried on Tuesday I hugged my kids and we had some fun together. It was a horrible week but we must be strong we must carry on and live our lives to the full #KCACOLS

  27. June 10, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    My boys are 4 and 7 now and I know it won’t be long before they start asking questions about terror attacks. Until then though, I’ve decided to shield them away from it for as long as I can.

    I’m not sure if that’s that’s right thing to do but I just can’t bare having to explain to them the awful things happen around us. I’d like to keep them innocent and fear-free for as long as I can. #KCACOLS

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