Returning to Work Without Freaking the ‘F’ Out

Returning to work: Fear not Mothers of young sproglings! Four weeks have passed since I deserted my small thing and hand on heart, it isn't as bad as my initial fears. If your return to work is quickly approaching, here's a few things to remember

Returning to work. Like any parenting milestone it’s a chance for expert procreators to offer you their words of wisdom. At the time you’ll want whack them with the nappy bag [all mothers know that could do some serious damage] and run for the hills while proudly brandishing your SAHM’s rule flag! But once reality hits and D-day arrives you’ll realise that everything they said was true. 

Although it’s different for everyone, I’m sure we can all agree that it’s a painful time. Plagued with anxiety your Mom guilt grows profusely. A million things run through your mind and it’s unsurprising. You’ve spent the best part of a year (obviously this differs from mommy to mommy so I’m speaking on a personal level) in each others company. You know you child inside out. Yet you’re preparing to leave them with your chosen caregiver and spend the majority of your time at a place – that lets face it – you’d rather not be! It’s understandable why the whole transition is so stressful.

Returning to work: Fear not Mothers of young sproglings! Four weeks have passed since I deserted my small thing and hand on heart, it isn't as bad as my initial fears. If your return to work is quickly approaching, here's a few things to remember

But fear not Mothers of young sproglings! Four weeks have passed since I deserted my small thing and hand on heart, it hasn’t been as bad as I initially thought . If your return to work is quickly approaching, here’s a few things to remember:

  • Give it a few weeks and you’ll feel like you never left
    In the weeks approaching the inevitable day, prepare to hear this ‘comforting’ phrase over and over again. It may seem like your life is a million miles away from where you once were but old habits die hard. Your old routine may not fit in with your new life but you’ll quickly adapt. 
  • Don’t be afraid to cry 
    If you return to work without breaking-down at least once people will obviously think you’re heartless. Leaving the toilets with smudged mascara, carrying an unacceptable amount of loo roll is a rite of passage for any new mum.
  • Make sure you treat yourself
    Use returning to work as an excuse to refresh your wardrobe. Last time you frequented the office you weighed fifteenth stone [again speaking from personal experience] and largely resembled Fat Bastard from Austin Powers! Now is the perfect time to grab yourself some new clobber and head back to work looking chuffin fantastic. 
  • Having time to catch up with old friends
    While the time I spent on maternity leave was undoubtedly the best year of my life, there was something missing – the adult conversation. Working in a busy office it’s something which you take for granted. A massive bonus for me is that I’m fortunate enough to work with two of my closest friends. It’s fantastic to spend my lunch catching up on the recent gossip.
  • More money is always a plus
    If like me you worked full time before having a baby maternity leave can be tough. You try to save but inevitably you live to your means. A reduction in your salary can put a strain on your relationship. Returning to work gives you more freedom as a family. Instead of living month to month you’ll have more disposable income. It isn’t the only reason to go back but an injection into your bank account sure as hell makes shit a little easier!  

For me suppressing my initial fears came easily. Will he still love me? Surely he’ll forget me? He’ll clearly love his Nanny more? Anxieties easily put to bed with a kiss when I return home. But this isn’t to say the transition hasn’t been tough. There are days when we feel so far apart that my bones ache but as the weeks pass those day are becoming less frequent.  

Returning to work may feel like the worst thing in the world. While the time you spend apart may be difficult it makes you cherish the time you spend together every bit more.


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19 Comments

  1. April 21, 2017 / 7:21 am

    We became parents through adoption, and we were basically told that we would only be considered if one of us didn’t return to work after adoption leave. We tried our best to return but my partner’s work refused to be flexible, so he couldn’t go back. I think he misses it, for the adult conversation at the very least!

    Thanks for sharing #thatfridaylinky

  2. April 21, 2017 / 9:47 am

    Lovely post – I agree it’s hard at first but Miss O loves spending time with Nana or at nursery – and it’s nice to have a bit of time being just me again, and of course the money helps -these tiny humans are bloomin expensive! #BlogCrush
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  3. April 21, 2017 / 10:49 am

    You’re doing so well for a recent return to work Mum – I was quite teary eyed on my first day back and every time I looked at photos on my phone at break times, it made me feel worse…so I stopped doing that for weeks after. It really does get easier as the months roll by. Us mothers seem to have this innate coping mechanism for emotional events. My little one loves spending time with family whist I’m at work. However, she missed us the first few weeks but now she cant wait to say goodbye to me when I drop her off. Agree with you on the money side, although feel sorry that some Mums dont have the option of going back to work but really need the income yet cant afford childcare. Its catch 22!

  4. April 21, 2017 / 1:37 pm

    The new wardrobe! What have you missed the most though? #ThatFridayLinky

  5. April 21, 2017 / 8:14 pm

    I am just a couple of weeks from returning to work, this is the second time for me and I keep telling myself that this time it will be easier – I know the carers better as they looked after Reuben and he has flourished. I will be fine – except I know come that Monday morning, I will be crying like a baby! My baby girl is growing up and it is happening fast. I know it will get easier but it doesn’t make it easier on us mummy’s #ThatFridayLinky

  6. April 23, 2017 / 12:50 pm

    I had a year of maternity leave with my twins and to be honest by the end of it, I was itching to get back to work! As much as I love spending all my time with my girls, a break, a bit of indolence, adult conversation etc was a nice change! Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky
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  7. Nige
    April 23, 2017 / 6:00 pm

    It’s must be tough returning to work these are excellent tips great read as always Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  8. April 24, 2017 / 12:07 pm

    It is tough going back to work and I was in two minds for a long time, but finally feel like I’ve found a balance. Great post. Thanks for joining us for #marvmondays x
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  9. April 24, 2017 / 7:30 pm

    Fab post and and great tips too. I didn’t return to work after maternity leave because my employer wouldn’t let me reduce my hours. I have been thinking about returning to work recently – basically so I can have a bit of ‘me’ time. But, at the same time I really don’t want to leave my little girl.. #MarvMondays

  10. April 24, 2017 / 9:20 pm

    Oh yes I’ve read so many posts about how hard it is to return to work after being at home. I think I would definitely be in pieces! I love your advice, though, and I’m glad that things are starting to get better now #blogcrush
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  11. April 25, 2017 / 8:17 am

    Great tips for parents leaving their kids! #DreamTeam

  12. April 25, 2017 / 1:38 pm

    This is so true! I’ve loved catching up with everyone since I went back and the money is definitely a bonus! #triumphanttales

  13. April 26, 2017 / 2:43 pm

    Wow 4 weeks and feeling good is good going in my opinion. It took me about 6 weeks to adjust but with my toddler in nursery she was constantly ill and during 4 months I rarely had a full week at work. Kind of why I left in the end!! Hope your return continues to go well x #BlogCrush
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  14. April 28, 2017 / 6:27 pm

    It’s hard to believe that it’s nearly four years since I went through this. I hated it. Every second. And I honestly felt that the weeks leading up to it, spoiled the end of my maternity leave, because I was dreading it that much. I was starting a brand new job as well, which made it extra difficult. A job in a place I knew nothing about, in an area of work I’d never worked before. It was very daunting. Well nearly four years have passed and I’m still there and it’s so normal now it’s crazy I ever felt that way. But at the time, it really felt like my world was ending. Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales, hope to see you back on Tuesday xx
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  15. April 28, 2017 / 8:16 pm

    I really found that the thought of work was a whole lot worse than actually going back and doing it. I realised I loved the freedom to be “me” and not just “mum.”
    Thank you for linking up to #TriumphantTales. Hope to see you back next week!

  16. April 30, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    Aww this is a great list! I found it hard going back to work but agree that you have to give it a bit of time to settle back in and not be too hard on yourself. Hope you’re finding it okay 🙂 By the way, I love the penguins in your header, is that new? Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam x
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    • Mommyandrory
      May 1, 2017 / 12:58 am

      Good spot! Yes it’s a new header. I have a ridiculous love of penguins so I thought it was about time I incorporated them into my blog! xx

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