The Truth about Part Time Parenting

The truth is part time parenting is really fucking hard but who said it was going to be easy? Cut yourself some slack, you work hard and your bloody amazing!!Last month Rory celebrated his 2nd birthday without me. A day reserved to mark the moment I birthed my child and instead of spending it with him, I spent the day at work. It certainly wasn’t the first milestone I’ve missed and I know for sure it won’t be the last but that doesn’t make it any less shit.

While working a full-time job comes with its perks – hot coffee and toddler free toilet breaks – it also has it’s disadvantages, the main one is that fact that I miss out on so much. I was really fortunate to spend the first year with Rory but since returning to work last March I’ve found it really tough to maintain a good work-life balance.

One of the big difficulties for us at the moment is timekeeping, mornings are especially hectic. Breakfast is usually on the go, we’re almost always late for nursery and it generally takes me until lunchtime to realise I’ve forgotten to brush my hair. * Fun fact: last week I nipped to the ladies room as I was leaving work. It was only then that I noticed I’d had my knickers on back to front all day – thank goodness I wasn’t wearing a thong!

Amidst the chaos, I try to make the most of the time we get together. Being a busy mum means I’m the master of turning everyday mundane tasks into memorable moments. We sing songs while getting dressed, make silly noises as we brush our teeth and practise counting numbers in the car. Getting to enjoy these little moments means I don’t feel like a miss out on quite so much. 

One bonus of being a working mama is that my weekends are always extra special. Everyone says they look forward to the weekend but for me, it comes with a whole new meaning. It’s no longer about sleeping in until noon (although that would be nice every once in a while) or drinking with friends, it’s all about family time. Nothing makes me happier than a quiet weekend at home with my two favourite boy – and Ryan.

The truth is part time parenting is really fucking hard but who said it was going to be easy? Cut yourself some slack, you work hard and your bloody amazing!!

Despite having been back at work almost a year, one issue which still plagues me is the guilt. I know it’s ridiculous. I work because I have to. I’m supporting my family, what is there to feel guilty about? It’s a situation which is completely out of my control yet I can’t help but still feel like I’m somehow failing. It has got easier with time, as we’ve slipped into our new routine and I see how well Rory is progressing at nursery but I think it’s something which will always bother me.                                                                                                                                      

The truth is being away from your child is really fecking hard. Some days they’re all you can think of, other days you feel guilty for not having the time to miss them. You appreciate your weekends so much but you also feel guilty for still needing time to yourself. Your one missed parents evening away from losing it and you can’t remember the last time you had a chance to hoover the stairs.  

No one ever said parenting was going to be easy. Whether you’re a stay at home mum or your work full time, we all face challenges. It’s really easy to become your own worst critic. Just remember you can only do your best and your best will always be good enough! Cut yourself some slack, you work hard and you’re bloody amazing!!


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The truth is part time parenting is really fucking hard but who said it was going to be easy? Cut yourself some slack, you work hard and your bloody amazing!!

37 Comments

  1. March 14, 2018 / 12:36 pm

    Oh Becky, this really got me… I remember feelin exactly the same when I was working crazy hours – I went back to work full time when Amelia was 7 months old – I was always on call even when I was ‘at home’ and the guilt was insane. That being said, I firmly believe that the tie she spent at nursery massively helped to mould her into the fabulous, independent, intelligent nearly 4yo that she is now. And the guilt these days is stil entirely there just for different reasons; I feel like she’s the kind of kid who NEEDS the full time learning environment of nursery and now she doesn’t have that, and I feel EPICLY guilty for not working (at least in the traditional sense) and bringing the bucks I used to…

    You are an amazing mama, and you’re doing such a fabulous job. Xxx

  2. April 17, 2018 / 6:46 am

    Hi, your last paragraph say it’s all, sorry you missed his birthday. On a lighter note thank goodness you weren’t wearing a thong #dreamteam

  3. April 17, 2018 / 7:33 am

    I work part time and still have this battle with myself on a regular basis. We are all just doing our best and lambasting ourselves about it gets us nowhere ? #dreamteam

  4. April 17, 2018 / 8:21 am

    So sorry to hear you missed his birthday very thought provoking post thanks for hosting #dreamteam

  5. April 17, 2018 / 8:29 am

    Mornings when I’m working are by for the most stressful time of the week for us too! Time slows down for them, the one time you need them to move! #DreamTeam

  6. April 17, 2018 / 8:33 am

    This has really hit me. I start a full time 9 to 5 job in a few weeks and I have a 14 month old so the thought of being away from her for so long honestly hurts me so much. Especially when I think about what I’m going to be missing out on. Thank you for sharing such an honest post. People think working mums are lucky they get a ‘break’ but I completely disagree. You can never really get a break as a parent because when you’re at work you still leave w part of you at home with your child #DreamTeam

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  7. April 17, 2018 / 8:52 am

    Yes. Whatever you do it is not easy – I have done full-time work, part-time work, volunteering, business and just staying at home. They all bring their joys and their challenges. I love the honesty in your post #DreamTeam

  8. April 17, 2018 / 9:28 am

    Yeah, it is tough when you’re working and parenting … as if one wasn’t tiring enough! But at least hopefully the penny will drop for them when they appreciate people go to work to earn the nice things and the necessary things in life. A work ethic will come from it. Boring but essential. And I guess we do appreciate thew down times more. #DreamTeam

  9. April 17, 2018 / 12:05 pm

    It’s so hard … I went back to work full time when the Tubblet was 6 months old and left her at home with Rev T. Stay at home dads weren’t quite so common back then and we had so many comments about being brave / modern etc. There’s no good choices, just ones you live with because you have too. Loved this post 🙂

  10. April 17, 2018 / 12:17 pm

    Been there bit the Tshirt and it’s shit basically! Your post is spot on. I have no answers I’m afraid. When mine were young and I taught Reception, I missed taking my own child for his first day in Reception and it almost killed me. The only positive is that life moves on and although the toddler days are tough, school days are a little easier. Then it gets harder again when they become teenagers. Good luck and happy hosting. #dreamteam

  11. April 17, 2018 / 12:22 pm

    Sounds like you are making the best out of a hard situation. Make the time count when you can! #dreamteam

  12. April 17, 2018 / 12:39 pm

    God being a mum is so bloody hard!!!! I have done both, a working mum and a stay at home mum, and both have there challenges #dreamteam

  13. April 17, 2018 / 1:17 pm

    Ever since I have become a mommy, I have not been back to full time work. I remember when I was thinking about going back to working again and I would be in tears just from the thought of leaving my baby while at work. It did not happen though so, I know what you mean. But like you said, when you’re not in work, it makes everything more special. 🙂 #DreamTeam

  14. April 17, 2018 / 1:33 pm

    Great post. Just remember you are working to make the cash to set this little man up. Cherish the weekends. You’re doing a great job.

  15. April 17, 2018 / 1:50 pm

    So many things to feel guilty about as a parent! Making the most of the time you do have together is lovely. #DreamTeam

  16. April 17, 2018 / 2:05 pm

    I think working with my daughter being at school really lessened the guilt but ultimately, I’m glad I get to work at home. I missed her school Christmas play last year because of the work I was doing. It bloody sucks. But you’re right, the time together and weekends are so extra special when you’re a working family #DreamTeam

  17. April 17, 2018 / 2:43 pm

    I don’t think we can win whichever way we do it. We feel guilty if we work and we feel guilty if we don’t. The most important thing is that we are the best mum we can be and you’re so right. We need to let the rest of it go and enjoy the little things when we can. Thanks for hosting #DreamTeam xx

  18. April 17, 2018 / 3:35 pm

    Thanks for sharing! I’ve been a part time parent since my boy was 6 months old and now that he is 3, it still isn’t any easier to leave him every morning. There are days I have like yours that I feel really shite and just want to throw in the towel, but I know I am already doing the best I can for him and my family and like you say, we’re bloody amazing! #DreamTeam

  19. April 17, 2018 / 7:50 pm

    My boys are 9 and 11 and I work part time because yes being away from them is still bloody hard and the big lad needs my support. Being a working mum is really hard and when you through special needs into the mix it is hard to find people you trust to take over. #dreamteam

  20. April 17, 2018 / 9:03 pm

    I totally get this. I’m a single work at home stay at home mum, my kids are at school 6 hours a day mon-fri and spend every other weekend with their Dad. Sometimes I really struggle with how much time I spend apart from them. Fantastic post #DreamTeam

  21. April 17, 2018 / 9:37 pm

    Sounds like you are doing a fab job of raising a great little boy. Parenting can be such a difficult job at times. #DreamTeam

  22. April 17, 2018 / 10:02 pm

    I really hope we can afford for me not to go back to work. I know I would find it so so hard and little one is only 8 weeks old! Well done for taking care of your family. #dreamteam

  23. April 17, 2018 / 10:40 pm

    I loved everything about this post. I am just trying to work out if I can take a day off for my middle Monkeys birthday but then he is in school all day anyway. We are so often torn between work and life. But we can only do our best in the time we have. It sounds as though you make every minute count. #DreamTeam

  24. April 17, 2018 / 11:14 pm

    I don’t know if I’d call a working mum a part time parent. I thought it was about divorced parents, where the child is week on/week off. I like your end paragraph…#Dreamteam

  25. April 18, 2018 / 7:59 am

    Working full time is soo hard! Ive done it for almost a year too and I hate it… I just never feel on top of anything. Like you say there are perks and you are doing a great thing supporting your family. Just didnt want to read and run without sharing a little support because I know how you feel #dreamteam

  26. April 18, 2018 / 10:32 am

    I feel you! working mama to 3 little ones here and its always hard. I missed my daughters School open day recently and felt awful . remember you are doing it for them though (I tekl myself this every morning when I’m trying to drag my kids out of the door so I cant get to work on time!!) #dreamteam

  27. April 18, 2018 / 9:28 pm

    It is hard to manage everything. When I returned to work after having my first child I once discovered half way through a day once that I was wearing odd shoes!! I didn’t know whether I was coming or going. I now have 4 little kids and am not working. I still don’t know if I am coming or going #dreamteam

  28. April 18, 2018 / 9:57 pm

    I am so sorry that you missed his birthday, that must have been hard. I was a stay at home mum until the last 18 months or so when my blog became my full time job and has taken me all over away from the children. It’s been hard getting used to that, but for the most part I am incredibly lucky that I have been there for their birthdays each year, I never really thought how hard it would be to miss out. #dreamteam

  29. April 19, 2018 / 10:56 am

    I’ve just gone back to work after taking 2 years off. I hate it! I feel overwhelmed and quilty all the time. So now I have decided to work half-day. Hopefully, I will have the best of both worlds. Or is that wishful thinking 🙂 #dreamream

  30. April 19, 2018 / 1:51 pm

    You are so spot on. I’m a full time working mom and it is definitely not easy – I can’t be at after school activities as I need to work and with the commute home in heavy traffic we get to spend only 3 hours together then they off to bed. So weekends are basically the only time we have to spend quality time together. Parenting is hard work but we doing the best we can #dreamteam

  31. April 20, 2018 / 11:09 am

    I have the best of both worlds as I work 3 jobs part time around school hours. It keeps me sane! I enjoy my grown up time but it make me appreciate the time with the children more too #dreamteam

  32. April 21, 2018 / 10:04 pm

    It’s such a tough one isn’t it. But I think you have it spot on about treasuring every little moment, even the every day ones. Once school starts, mum guilt can take on a whole different meaning and become much more amplified. And there I was thinking it would subside. Keep going mama, you’re doing brilliantly. Thanks for guest hosting on the #DreamTeam this week – its been great having you xx

  33. April 23, 2018 / 2:40 pm

    It must suck not being able to take time off and spend it together with your loved one on their birthday. #DreamTeam

  34. April 23, 2018 / 7:50 pm

    I didn’t go back to my old job after becoming a mum for this very reason. I went freelance & it’s been tough starting a business from scratch while working from home with one, two & them three babies. It’s been hand to mouth at times as I earn less than I did then but ultimately it was the right decision for us #DreamTeam

  35. April 23, 2018 / 10:24 pm

    This is such an honest post, thank you for sharing it. My mother worked as a nurse in an emergency room, it frequently required night shifts and a lot of missed milestones. I never knew any different so I was never upset about it. Even as an adult, I look back and marvel at all of the things she and my father were able to do for us because they both worked. I hope that gives you some small comfort. #DreamTeam

  36. April 24, 2018 / 12:55 am

    Oh Becky it must be hard. I have so much respect for working parents, just the thought of leaving my toddler or not being able to take my boy to school really upsets me. I feel so lucky everyday that I get to be with them and never miss anything. You are doing an amazing job though and doing what is right for your family, little Rory loves you regardless of if you have to go to work or not xx #dreamteam

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