Becoming parents is a wonderful but testing time. Know matter how prepared you think you are, when that buddle of joy enters the world their sure to turn it upside down!
As Rory hurtles towards his first birthday, I find myself in envy of new parents. Now don’t go thinking I’m some crazy baby lady who’s already getting broody, because that’s definitely not the direction this post is heading. I don’t want another baby, I just want some more time with my little baby! It’s true what they say, they don’t stay tiny for long. But am I just looking back to the early days through rose tinted glasses
It’s easy to forget what it felt like to care for a new born, when you baby is now seven months old and sleep’s for a solid twelve hours each night. Its easy to forget how hard it was to leave the house before lunch time or successfully wash your hair at least once a week! Its also easy to forget the pointless arguments you would get into. Its amazing what sleep depravation and crazy hormones can do to a couple!
I’m a firm believer that any normal couple has to have their disagreements. Its not natural to agree on everything! So throw a new baby in the mix and your bound to bicker! Here are my top five arguments that I’m pretty confident most new(ish) parents will have gotten into:
- Who’s the most tired – Your there with a baby on one boob, the breast pump on the other, tallying up that amount of hours sleep you’ve had in an attempted prove a point!
- Why he can’t hear the baby crying – So now you’ve worked out that you’ve had a grand total of four hours broken sleep, you put the baby back in his moses basket, tiptoe back to bed. Your head hits the pillow and the baby starts crying. Less that a meter away is your partner….snoring away!
- Who’s turn it is to bath the baby – Your baby is now a couple of months old and your partner is back at work. His job during the week is bedtime, but who’s job is it to bath the baby at the weekend?
- Not feeling appreciated – You spend your day’s taking care of the baby, doing the house work, keeping on top of the laundry, getting the big shop! Your partner comes home, leaves his shoes in the kitchen, hangs his shirt on the back of a chair and asks “what’s for dinner?”
- Your not doing it right – You spend all week taking care of the baby. The weekend rolls around and daddy steps in. But daddy doesn’t know baby like you do. He gets offended if you tell him to do things a certain way, you get frustrated because you don’t think he listens!
Remember, the majority of new parents will get into fights, its completely normal. Try not to point score, its not a competition. You both work hard, your both sleep deprived, your both cranky and you both probably miss aspects of your old lives! As your baby grows and things start to get a little easier, make time for each other. If you can, organise a date night to spend some time being adults and not parents!
Don’t forget to tell each other that your doing a great job! As the stay at home parent its easy to feel like your doing all the work, but think how hard it must be to leave for work every day knowing how much your missing! Parents who work need to feel like their doing a good job too!
No one ever said it was going to be easy! Its the toughest job in the world, but that’s why its the most rewarding!