Mommy says no, lets ask Nanny!

When I was five all I wanted was a pair of jelly sandals. You know the sparkly ones which somehow seem to be back in fashion. My Mum said no because they had a heel, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was eight all I wanted was one of those squishy aliens. Everyone at school was convinced that if you put a male and female (christ knows how you went about sexing them) back to back and left them in the freezer for a week they’d have babies. Now as an adult I know this is simply a ridiculous fantasy concocted by young imaginations, yet even now it’s still something I’d be willing to try. Just to make sure it doesn’t work! Anyway my Mum said they were a waste of money, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was thirteen all I wanted was a pair of combat trousers with tassels on. Back then everyone who was anyone rocked combats. Combats were fine but my Mum drew the line at tassels. She thought they looked stupid, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was fifteen all I wanted was a mobile phone. I was without a doubt the last kid in my class to get one. For some unknown reason my Mum despised them. Maybe she was scared of the suspected brain cancer or maybe she just didn’t trust me, either way she said no. So you guessed it, I asked my Grandma.

As you can imagine my epic game play and my Grandmas reluctance to say no lead to more than one heated conversation. Thinking back I feel pretty guilty.

My Grandma was of such a kind nature that she doted on me. Having struggled to conceive, there must’ve been many days in her youth where she thought she’d never have the opportunity to spoil her own babies, never mind grandchildren! I only hope I didn’t take advantage of her giving nature. Of course as a child it’s wonderful to get your own way but there was much more to our relationship than the value of her generosity. 

Being a parent myself ,I now understand my mums frustrations. My Grandmas aim was never to undermine my mum but for my Mum it must have been infuriating. Taking into account that my Grandma was my Mums Mother-in-Law probably only made the situation worse! That said despite my sneaky manipulation, they somehow managed to maintain a strong relationship until my Grandma passed four years ago.

Looking back I now understand why my Grandma was so reluctant to say no. Often than not when we have our own children we can’t always give them everything we want. Whether that be our time because we’re working, or gifts because money is tight. Usually when our children arrive, our parents are more financially stable. Their often retired or work less hours and are able to help provide for their grandbabies.

Parents are there to parent, Grandparents are there to spoil you rotten!Lets ask Nanny - Think back to being a child. What was that one thing you always wanted but your parents never bought you?


What was that must have thing you nagged your parents for but they never bought you? 

Jenna from Then there were Three – Anything with the Playboy bunny logo on 😂 or the skirts that looked like the one Christina Aguilera wore in her Dirty video!

Jen from Just Average Jen – I was never allowed a proper shell suit and it wasn’t fair!

Georgina from Georgina Clarke – A real life barbie jeep, you know ones you actually sit in and drive around! You can imagine my distaste when my brother got a John Deer Gator baby jeep 6 years later

Abi from Something About Baby – Betty Spaghetti! I had loads of Barbies so I wasn’t allowed that as well. Every birthday and Christmas for about 2 years I’d hoped to get one, but it never arrived

Samantha from Chocolate and Wine and I’ll Be Fine – Adidas trousers! You know the tracksuit bottoms with the stripes down them and the poppers! I wanted them so much but my mum hated them!

Kelly from School Run and Shopping Trolleys – Those Cadbury Dairy milk chocolate dispenser things that were in the catalogue. I asked for one every Christmas and never did get it!

Natalie from Surviving Life’s Hurdles – A tamagotchi, as my parents couldn’t see the point in them. I wanted one so badly too!

Kimberly from OddHogg – Beanie Babies ! I was so desperate to collect them and it was a flat out no.

It seems that one thing a lot* of you missed out on was a Mr Frosty! Coincidentally it was actually something which my mum did allow me to have. I can’t say it was something I ever asked for and I don’t remember it been much fun so don’t feel too let down. You didn’t miss out on much! 

* The Diary of a Frugal Family, Rock and Roll Pussycat, Cossins Music School, Woman in Progress, Living with a Jude, Digital Motherhood, Lets Go Somewhere Nice

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  1. July 14, 2017 / 6:55 am

    A very good point! My little ones’ grandparents always buy them treats in the coffee shop whereas mean Mummy here will only do it occasionally. Really interesting post xx #BlogCrush

  2. July 14, 2017 / 7:54 am

    Ahhh this brought back memories!!!!! Jelly sandals, combats, tamagotchis – YEP, been there!!! My mother in law is the ‘yes’ voice in our lives at the minute – my daughter adores Haribo and I’m not a fan of letting her have them – cue Grandma arriving with a gigantic multipack! It took me a long time to deal with feeling like she was undermining me but I realise now that she comes from a place of immense love for her grandchildren and wanting them to be happy. Perhaps being Grandma is a continuation of ‘mummy-guilt’ hence the spoiling?! Great post Becky and thanks for the trip down memory lane! #BlogCrush

  3. July 14, 2017 / 11:42 am

    Jelly shoes! What a blast from the past! And yes the grandparent conundrum. They love to shower the children with gifts and sweets. It’s a constant battle to bite my tongue and remember they’re just really excited grandparents. X #blogcrush

  4. July 16, 2017 / 1:21 pm

    Such a fun post and so true! Mind you, with teens I now say, “go and ask Nannie!” so maybe it works both ways! #KCACOLS

  5. July 16, 2017 / 4:30 pm

    Sweets. My Nan always used to give us sweets when my parents wouldn’t. I am glad that my Mum refuses to give Cygnet sweets. Pen x x#KCACOLS
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  6. July 16, 2017 / 9:54 pm

    It was always more fun to stay at my grans in the summer holidays as she let us have whatever we wanted! Now as a parent, I understand how annoying that was for my parents as my daughter does this now! 🙂


  7. July 16, 2017 / 10:25 pm

    Oh my God I had those hideous combats with the tassels on..I wish my mum had said no to those! My parents and in laws spoil my kids rotten, I think it’s lovely but also frustrating if I’ve already said no. Fab post lovely xx #blogcrush

  8. July 17, 2017 / 2:53 am

    Yep! Grandparents will do that. My kids come home with so much stuff every time they are over there! I remember my grandma being the same way when I was little though.

  9. July 17, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    Mr Frosty here too, when my daughter got one in the raffle at school I discovered why they are so annoying! They takes ages to make them work and they are loads of little pieces so she leaves it all over the kitchen! Nanny lets my pair get everything, I just let her now, it’s not worth the fight. #kcacols
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  10. July 17, 2017 / 3:19 pm

    Grandparents will always spoil our kids, it’s their job lol.

  11. July 19, 2017 / 3:05 pm

    at Target last week our teen found some discounted old movies she wanted. I told her I didn’t have any extra money that day and as soon as we got home she called her grandmother and asked if they could go to Target soon. I bit my lip #KCACOLS
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  12. July 21, 2017 / 11:18 am

    My Mum always quotes your last line about parents are there to parent and grandparents are there to spoil you! I think the grandparents always enjoy indulging the grandkids a bit more because they get to hand them back to the parents! It’s a lovely relationship as you mostly get only the good bits! #KCACOLS
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