Mommy says no, lets ask Nanny!

When I was five all I wanted was a pair of jelly sandals. You know the sparkly ones which somehow seem to be back in fashion. My Mum said no because they had a heel, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was eight all I wanted was one of those squishy aliens. Everyone at school was convinced that if you put a male and female (christ knows how you went about sexing them) back to back and left them in the freezer for a week they’d have babies. Now as an adult I know this is simply a ridiculous fantasy concocted by young imaginations, yet even now it’s still something I’d be willing to try. Just to make sure it doesn’t work! Anyway my Mum said they were a waste of money, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was thirteen all I wanted was a pair of combat trousers with tassels on. Back then everyone who was anyone rocked combats. Combats were fine but my Mum drew the line at tassels. She thought they looked stupid, so I asked my Grandma.

When I was fifteen all I wanted was a mobile phone. I was without a doubt the last kid in my class to get one. For some unknown reason my Mum despised them. Maybe she was scared of the suspected brain cancer or maybe she just didn’t trust me, either way she said no. So you guessed it, I asked my Grandma.

As you can imagine my epic game play and my Grandmas reluctance to say no lead to more than one heated conversation. Thinking back I feel pretty guilty.

My Grandma was of such a kind nature that she doted on me. Having struggled to conceive, there must’ve been many days in her youth where she thought she’d never have the opportunity to spoil her own babies, never mind grandchildren! I only hope I didn’t take advantage of her giving nature. Of course as a child it’s wonderful to get your own way but there was much more to our relationship than the value of her generosity. 

Being a parent myself ,I now understand my mums frustrations. My Grandmas aim was never to undermine my mum but for my Mum it must have been infuriating. Taking into account that my Grandma was my Mums Mother-in-Law probably only made the situation worse! That said despite my sneaky manipulation, they somehow managed to maintain a strong relationship until my Grandma passed four years ago.

Looking back I now understand why my Grandma was so reluctant to say no. Often than not when we have our own children we can’t always give them everything we want. Whether that be our time because we’re working, or gifts because money is tight. Usually when our children arrive, our parents are more financially stable. Their often retired or work less hours and are able to help provide for their grandbabies.

Parents are there to parent, Grandparents are there to spoil you rotten!Lets ask Nanny - Think back to being a child. What was that one thing you always wanted but your parents never bought you?


What was that must have thing you nagged your parents for but they never bought you? 

Jenna from Then there were Three – Anything with the Playboy bunny logo on ? or the skirts that looked like the one Christina Aguilera wore in her Dirty video!

Jen from Just Average Jen – I was never allowed a proper shell suit and it wasn’t fair!

Georgina from Georgina Clarke – A real life barbie jeep, you know ones you actually sit in and drive around! You can imagine my distaste when my brother got a John Deer Gator baby jeep 6 years later

Abi from Something About Baby – Betty Spaghetti! I had loads of Barbies so I wasn’t allowed that as well. Every birthday and Christmas for about 2 years I’d hoped to get one, but it never arrived

Samantha from Chocolate and Wine and I’ll Be Fine – Adidas trousers! You know the tracksuit bottoms with the stripes down them and the poppers! I wanted them so much but my mum hated them!

Kelly from School Run and Shopping Trolleys – Those Cadbury Dairy milk chocolate dispenser things that were in the catalogue. I asked for one every Christmas and never did get it!

Natalie from Surviving Life’s Hurdles – A tamagotchi, as my parents couldn’t see the point in them. I wanted one so badly too!

Kimberly from OddHogg – Beanie Babies ! I was so desperate to collect them and it was a flat out no.

It seems that one thing a lot* of you missed out on was a Mr Frosty! Coincidentally it was actually something which my mum did allow me to have. I can’t say it was something I ever asked for and I don’t remember it been much fun so don’t feel too let down. You didn’t miss out on much! 

* The Diary of a Frugal Family, Rock and Roll Pussycat, Cossins Music School, Woman in Progress, Living with a Jude, Digital Motherhood, Lets Go Somewhere Nice

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  1. July 14, 2017 / 6:55 am

    A very good point! My little ones’ grandparents always buy them treats in the coffee shop whereas mean Mummy here will only do it occasionally. Really interesting post xx #BlogCrush

  2. July 14, 2017 / 7:54 am

    Ahhh this brought back memories!!!!! Jelly sandals, combats, tamagotchis – YEP, been there!!! My mother in law is the ‘yes’ voice in our lives at the minute – my daughter adores Haribo and I’m not a fan of letting her have them – cue Grandma arriving with a gigantic multipack! It took me a long time to deal with feeling like she was undermining me but I realise now that she comes from a place of immense love for her grandchildren and wanting them to be happy. Perhaps being Grandma is a continuation of ‘mummy-guilt’ hence the spoiling?! Great post Becky and thanks for the trip down memory lane! #BlogCrush

  3. July 14, 2017 / 11:42 am

    Jelly shoes! What a blast from the past! And yes the grandparent conundrum. They love to shower the children with gifts and sweets. It’s a constant battle to bite my tongue and remember they’re just really excited grandparents. X #blogcrush

  4. July 16, 2017 / 1:21 pm

    Such a fun post and so true! Mind you, with teens I now say, “go and ask Nannie!” so maybe it works both ways! #KCACOLS

  5. July 16, 2017 / 4:30 pm

    Sweets. My Nan always used to give us sweets when my parents wouldn’t. I am glad that my Mum refuses to give Cygnet sweets. Pen x x#KCACOLS

  6. July 16, 2017 / 9:54 pm

    It was always more fun to stay at my grans in the summer holidays as she let us have whatever we wanted! Now as a parent, I understand how annoying that was for my parents as my daughter does this now! 🙂


  7. July 16, 2017 / 10:25 pm

    Oh my God I had those hideous combats with the tassels on..I wish my mum had said no to those! My parents and in laws spoil my kids rotten, I think it’s lovely but also frustrating if I’ve already said no. Fab post lovely xx #blogcrush

    • August 4, 2017 / 10:15 pm

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  8. July 17, 2017 / 2:53 am

    Yep! Grandparents will do that. My kids come home with so much stuff every time they are over there! I remember my grandma being the same way when I was little though.

  9. July 17, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    Mr Frosty here too, when my daughter got one in the raffle at school I discovered why they are so annoying! They takes ages to make them work and they are loads of little pieces so she leaves it all over the kitchen! Nanny lets my pair get everything, I just let her now, it’s not worth the fight. #kcacols

  10. July 17, 2017 / 3:19 pm

    Grandparents will always spoil our kids, it’s their job lol.

  11. July 17, 2017 / 9:28 pm

    I love that my son thinks Grandma is a magical being who just makes things happen. That is what grandparents are meant to do. #KCACOLS

  12. July 18, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    Fab post and true! I wasn’t allowed a lot of things but I also got a lot of other things too! #KCACOLS

  13. July 19, 2017 / 3:05 pm

    at Target last week our teen found some discounted old movies she wanted. I told her I didn’t have any extra money that day and as soon as we got home she called her grandmother and asked if they could go to Target soon. I bit my lip #KCACOLS

  14. July 21, 2017 / 11:18 am

    My Mum always quotes your last line about parents are there to parent and grandparents are there to spoil you! I think the grandparents always enjoy indulging the grandkids a bit more because they get to hand them back to the parents! It’s a lovely relationship as you mostly get only the good bits! #KCACOLS

  15. July 21, 2017 / 6:56 pm

    Loved reading this, especially all the things that were so badly wanted, it’s so funny looking back at the things we were so desperate for as children and teenagers! I did have some of the Adidas trousers with the poppers, I thought I was pretty cool wearing those! x #KCACOLS

  16. July 22, 2017 / 8:47 pm

    Love this! I always wanted a ‘gearbox’ – it was a plastic briefcase with different coloured handle and catches. Everyone had them at my school and I so desperately wanted one. I even dreamed I got one once and was so upset when I woke up and it was just a dream. I got one eventually…it was red with yellow handles. My Granny never got me much though…I remember getting a £1 coin taped in a card for my 13th birthday lol! #KCACOLS

  17. July 23, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    Ah sparkly jelly sandals – I used to covet them but was never allowed them either. I always wanted the Sindy camper van, tent and horse but was only ever allowed a doll. My friend had all the kit and a Ken too! I wanted a soda stream, clogs, Pretty Cut and Grow and rollerboots. I’ll never forget when my parents finally let me have my own rollerboots after borrowing some from a neighbour for a year. I absolutely loved them! My parents were pretty strict and hardly let us have any of the ‘in’ things which was so frustrating at the time but now I’m pleased as we were far from spoilt and we appreciated the value of things and still do. Hoping my own kids do but I’m not so sure as everything is far more accessible now. #KCACOLS

  18. July 23, 2017 / 3:31 pm

    We must be a similar age as I remember all these things! The one thing I always asked for but never got was the game Twister, I think my parents didn’t want to have to play it! #kcacols

  19. July 23, 2017 / 10:26 pm

    We lived with my parents and they frequently undermined me which used to drive me mad! Now we have our own home I don’t mind if they want to treat the kids #kcacols

  20. July 24, 2017 / 1:07 pm

    Isn’t that what grandparents are, there for???? It’s so lovely you have an amazing relationship with your granny. It must have hard for your mother at the time, but granny just wanted to help out in her way. #KCACOLS

  21. July 25, 2017 / 6:50 am

    Ha ha, I didn’t really do this as we lived 200 miles away from but I know my cousin did all the time, and still does! But she also looks after my Nan way better than anyone else. Both my kids get spoilt by both sets of grandparents despite my best efforts and I can imagine I’ll be the same if I’m lucky enough to be a grandparent one day too.

  22. July 25, 2017 / 4:01 pm

    Oh goodness I completely understand what your mom was going through! My mom-in-law would buy our kids anything under the sun. She even bought our 2 year old a tablet. We don’t even have one, lol. Of course she has the best intentions though 😀
    I love your writing style.
    Tori @ The Mama Nurse

  23. July 25, 2017 / 11:06 pm

    haha you are so right! Grandparents are here to spoil you! Lovely post! It reminded me of my own grandma who was giving me everything I ever wanted! Loved going there! I knew I would be treated as a princess when my mum was super strict lol. Something I never had? A very expensive pair of trousers from a Spanish brand. Everyone had one at school and my mum said they were way too expensive. Worth she was so embarrassing in the shop telling whoever wanted to hear that selling clothes at that price was outrageous! I still remember it to that day… Oh, I got a pair of trousers from that brand, from a charity shop! I always get what I want LOL #KCACOLS

  24. July 26, 2017 / 6:39 am

    As an auntie to many, I always like to spoil them when I’m looking after them. This continues when we had our own child but as he progressed further into the suposséd terrible twos I found that he wasn’t appreciating things so I’ve since become more strict. He gets very spoilt by his grandparents and aunties though.


  25. July 28, 2017 / 7:44 pm

    Mine will play any of us against each other, they have no shame…bless em!;)

  26. July 29, 2017 / 1:41 am

    Haha – my two, being very young, mostly take advantage of getting loads of chocolate and treats from the grandparents! #KCACOLS

  27. July 30, 2017 / 2:45 pm

    My nan would spoil us but my dad had firm rules that we had to ask him before we accepted anything from her. My cousins had no such rules and really took advantage. #kcacols

  28. July 31, 2017 / 8:00 am

    You’re so right, my dad is always trying to give my little one chocolate, sweets, juice! I suppose like you said, they’ve done the parenting/discipline thing now it’s time for them to simply spoil! x #KCACOLS

  29. July 31, 2017 / 2:33 pm

    My daughter has her grandad wrapped around her little finger! But your right, my dad always says it’s his job to spoil them rotten! #KCACOLS

  30. August 3, 2017 / 1:26 pm

    Like you say, it’s a parent’s role to parent & a grandparent’s role to spoil! #KCACOLS

  31. August 3, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    I’m with you on the jelly shoes!! I also wanted a Mr Frosty too but never got one! My MIL now spoils my boys rotten, her excuse is always because she’s nanny so she’s allowed! #KCACOLS

  32. August 5, 2017 / 9:44 pm

    Hehe – yep my friends got me Mr Frosty for my 18th as I was never allowed one! #KCACOLS

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