How Important are Your Mamma Friends?

mamma friends - the most important friends you'll need when raising offspring!

A few weeks ago I came across a post written by one of my fave bloggers, the laugh out loud funny Dawn from Rhyming with Wine. She’s a poetic genius who I’m sure you’re more than familiar with. As always her post – The Snail and the Fail – had me giggling along in agreement but it also got me thinking. What would my life be like without my mamma friends?

Sharing my pregnancy news with my friends was exciting but been the first one to take the plunge was scary. Like Christopher Columbus with boobs, I found myself venturing into uncharted waters. Having no idea what to expect or even the faintest idea how to change a nappy it came as a sigh of relief when a work colleague suggested I try an NCT antenatal course. 

Not only did the course provide me with a graphic insight into the horror show to come, it also paved the way for invaluable friendships. I didn’t know it at the time but these six pregnant strangers would soon become my lifeline.

Mamma Friends in the Early Days 

Those first few weeks when everything seems impossible. You have no idea if you’re doing it right and the thought of your other half returning to work is terrifying. You still don’t really understand cluster feeding and you find yourself googling “is it normal for my baby to…” eighty times a day. Having mamma friends who you can relate to is vital. I was lucky. Although our friendships were new and the only thing which we had in common – at that time – were our babies, we were all living lives parallel to each other. I remember having conversations with these ladies at 3am when we were all desperate for sleep and on the brink of losing our shit! We may have only known each other a short amount of time but we were laying the foundations for a friendship like no other. 

Growing up

As our boys grow so do our friendships. We no longer discuss our breastfeeding woes or if our boys are on the correct centile. Now we fill our chats with discussions about nursery and constant colds. But there’s also talk of us and the lives we lived before we became Rory’s Mommy. The interesting thing is that we are all quite different. We’re mix of ages and we all took quite different paths into parenthood. It’s why I still find it surprising that a group of people, randomly thrown together in a dusty church hall can form such a bond. 

Are my Mamma Friends Important?

Hell yeah! For starters who can survive maternity leave alone? It might sound like a holiday when you’re working thirty odd hours a week but taking care of a tiny human twenty four hours a day is hard and lonely. There have been times over the past year where I’ve been down, without even knowing my new found friends have been there to pick me up. When you’re feeling low just leaving the house to grab a coffee or taking a walk can make such a big difference. Becoming a mommy is exhausting, it’s gruelling and testing but having a supportive gang of mamma friends makes surviving a hell of a lot easier!

A Message to THE Mamma Friends – Yeh You!

You may well be the only friends which I’ve ever paid for but you’re worth every penny!

Getting to know you all individually has been wonderful. Not just because I’m a busybody but because you’re all such interesting people. I spend an awful amount of time worrying that I’ve said the wrong thing or that I talk too much. Hopefully you all understand my ‘say it now think later’ attitude and take it with a pinch of salt!

I know I’m not always very present in our group chat, please don’t take it personally. I’m crap at replying to everyone. It’s a negative trait the I really must work on. Please know that even though we don’t speak every day I value your friendships soooooo much!!!

I love the fact that our lives will always be in sync. I hope in fifteen years time we still have the same group chat on WhatsApp and on Photo Friday we still send baby pictures because our boys are now teenagers and gag at the suggestion of us taking their photo!  

The past year has been amazing, I’m sure you’ll agree and it certainly wouldn’t have been the same without you all.

Thanks for supporting me, thanks for putting up with me and here’s to a friendship like no other!

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43 Comments

  1. March 13, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Awww! This brought a tear to my eye! You’re worth every penny to me too! X

  2. March 14, 2017 / 7:23 am

    I absolutely love this post and agree so much – I’d be lost without my NCT friends they have been there for me so much! xxx #dreamteam

  3. March 14, 2017 / 9:45 am

    As time went by and the various stages of my life came and went, I found my group of friends also changed, now, when I really need friends because of a long term illness, my true friends have stuck with me, anyone who hasn’t, I don’t need anyway #tuesdaytreasures@-karendennis

  4. March 14, 2017 / 5:27 pm

    yes i feel the same about the online friends I have found through blogging. The “me too” factor is so powerful #treasuretuesdays

  5. March 14, 2017 / 8:05 pm

    So incredibly true! I would be utterly lost without my mum friends. I didn’t go to NTC classes and was the first of my friendship group to have kids (even though I was in my 30s!) The first 6 months were so hard, until I joined a toddler group and I have never looked back. Blog world brings even more support too from so many other lovely mums (yourself included) that I would otherwise never have had the chance to “chat” to. Motherhood is blimmin lonely if you try and do it without mamma friends! Love this so much. Thanks for the gorgeous mention, and for bringing your post to #DreamTeam of course too xx

  6. March 14, 2017 / 9:11 pm

    I did NCT and whilst made some great friends. Unfortunately we moved away when my son was 3 and pretty much lost touch with most of them. Then I found the wonder of school Mum friends! They are the best! #TuesdayTreasures
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  7. March 15, 2017 / 8:42 am

    This is such a lovely post. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about why I’ve avoided making Mama friends, and I’m really regretting it! I’m so glad to be part of the blogging community because I feel like I’ve kind of bridged that gap now. What a lovely post #BloggerClubUK

  8. March 15, 2017 / 9:53 am

    Mum friends are everything. Love this post, and I might start Photo Friday too! #BloggerClubUK

  9. March 15, 2017 / 12:28 pm

    I just spent the day with a Mum friend who I met online and it felt so comfortable, the babies are 6 and 7 months old and we’ve already been through so much together. I do hope she and my other new Mum friends are around for much longer, they mean the world to me

  10. March 15, 2017 / 12:30 pm

    I just spent the day with a Mum friend who I met online and it felt so comfortable, the babies are 6 and 7 months old and we’ve already been through so much together. I do hope she and my other new Mum friends are around for much longer, they mean the world to me #BloggerClubuk

  11. March 16, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    Mama friends are so important! I especially needed them in the early days when everything was so overwhelming. Now that I’m back at work and don’t get out to baby/toddler groups I don’t see many mamas these days, but I’m lucky to have a lot of great ‘virtual’ mum friends who I chat with on a daily basis. #ablogginggoodtime
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  12. March 16, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    I don’t know what I’d have done without my Mama friends – they got me through the dark times. I wrote a post on it too last week for International Women’s Day because my Mama friends rock, now more than ever, they’ll be the friendships that last a lifetime I reckon. #bloggerclubuk
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  13. March 16, 2017 / 6:26 pm

    Great post and agree with the comments, I loved the quote ‘You may well be the only friends which I’ve ever paid for but you’re worth every penny!’ it made me smile, Chloe #SharetheBlogLove

  14. March 16, 2017 / 7:21 pm

    All hail the Mum friends! I’m 5 years down the road, and our kids have all gone to different schools and have little siblings in tow – but they’re all still as close as ever. I STILL rely on those same gals so much. The friends you make as a new Mum are so special.
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub x
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  15. March 16, 2017 / 10:55 pm

    I loved my NCT friends. It’s now much harder and I’ve not seen most of them in a year because I work full time, and most of them have had 2/3 kids now so had the extra time to spend together. One’s been abroad, and I’m struggling to get time back in with her, and another is just about to move. But they were invaluable, and I think if we were all together again, it would be just the same as before. #sharingthebloglove
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  16. March 17, 2017 / 3:23 am

    Mamma friends are so important indeed! They can relate, they get you, and they have little kids running around too!
    #SharingtheBloglove

  17. March 17, 2017 / 7:14 am

    So important to have friends who understand and who you can talk to about the ups and downs of parenting. I never did NCT – I didn’t feel I could cope with it at the time due to having a poor prognosis for my eldest daughter when I was pregnant with her – but I look back now and a big part of me wishes I had done it. It’s taken a long time to build up my mummy friends network without it. So glad to hear that it helped build those friendships for you. #sharingthebloglove
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  18. March 17, 2017 / 9:12 am

    I wish I’d done the nct course. I definitely missed out on mummy friends. I’ve made a few along the way but I think having a network from the start is vital!! #coolmumclub

  19. March 17, 2017 / 10:36 am

    Having other mums to chat to and share concerns and triumphs with is so so important! Unfortunately my NCT group didn’t really click and we’re not really in touch these days. I was lucky that my sister had a baby just 3 weeks after me though, so we were lucky to be able to spend our maternity leave together and it’s brought us even closer than we were before. She’s just had her second and I’m due with my second in a few months, so we’re looking forward to a second lot of maternity leave together! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  20. March 17, 2017 / 10:57 pm

    Mama friends are what help keep us all going!!! Id be lost without them!
    #ablogginggoodtime

  21. March 18, 2017 / 4:09 pm

    Mamma friends are just the best aren’t they. I know I would be lost without mine. Thanks for linking up with #TuesdayTreasures if you could add our linky badge that would be most appreciated 🙂
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  22. March 20, 2017 / 12:20 pm

    What a true and lovely post, thanks for joining the #TuesdayTreasures linky. Please be sure to add the linky image below your post.

  23. March 20, 2017 / 8:49 pm

    NCT is strange that you are basically buying friends, but husband always said this! I had a strange group, but I came away with one friend and we are still friends now 4 1/2 years later. I’m always grateful that we came away with each other and our friendship has moved on to us meeting for dinner just the two of us, as well as meeting with the kids. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  24. March 21, 2017 / 11:31 am

    Awww what a lovely post! Friends are important at any age! I totally agree that friends when you are a mum are critical, they know what life is like & there’s a great comradery there! Thank you for sharing with #BloggerClubUK x

  25. March 21, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    I didn’t do NCT and actually we moved anyway when our eldest was 6months so I guess even if I had made friends through that I would have lost them again anyway, it took a long time for me to find my ‘mum crew’ but since finding them I am soooo grateful I have them, they are such a vital lifeline! Every mummy needs ‘mum friends’. #KCACOLS

  26. March 22, 2017 / 1:42 pm

    You are right that these mamma friends are the best. #KCACOLS

  27. March 22, 2017 / 8:10 pm

    You are so right. When I found out I was pregnant I lost my best friend and then it suddenly dawned on me that I didnt really have any others as they were all hers and in the days leading up to birth and in the weeks after I was so lonely. I thank my lucky stars each and every day that I began blogging and met people who I know I will be friends with for life. Fist bump mama xx
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  28. March 22, 2017 / 8:42 pm

    Aww I love this post. No baby yet but this is something i’ll definitely remember when the time comes. #KCACOLS

  29. March 22, 2017 / 9:14 pm

    Really love this post, I only made some good Mummy friends when my eldest started school – I’m not sure what I would do without them. #sharingthebloglove

  30. March 23, 2017 / 12:56 pm

    Agreed – mum friends are so important – it’s great to have someone to vent with/share milestones with that’s at the same stage you are! #sharingthebloglove

  31. March 23, 2017 / 7:30 pm

    Couldn’t agree with you more! Our husbands are essential (of course!) but sometimes a good mama friend can provide an even more powerful form of support. #SharingtheBlogLove

  32. March 24, 2017 / 3:31 pm

    My mumma friends are just awesome, I’ve made a collection, here in Paris, the school mamas back home and my adoption mamas – oh boy I need them! #SharingtheBlogLove

  33. March 25, 2017 / 3:29 pm

    Mum friends are so important but we’ve really struggled to find ‘a group’ where we fit in. My little man has Autism so we just don’t seem to fit in with anyone we’ve met ad have lost our old friends as we don’t fit with them either. Hopefully I’ll find my mum friends soon as I know I need them! #BloggerClubUK

  34. March 25, 2017 / 7:13 pm

    This is so lovely and something that I struggle with at the moment. Having moved to Sweden we are having an amazing time, but as everyone settles into their new roles, I have left my mummy friends behind, and need to start over. I miss them and still chat weekly to them, but it is hard without the people that know you so well #sharingthebloglove

  35. March 29, 2017 / 4:04 pm

    Ah I loved doing NCT and we had lots of group WhatsApp chat at 2am those first few weeks! Sadly a couple fell out, one person moved so our group fizzled out a bit and we hardly meet now but some of us do for a curry every now and again. And I’d say I’ve got 2 really good close friends now from it. Again we are all quite different. But like you say we have a great bond. Fab post x #ablogginggoodtime
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  36. March 30, 2017 / 3:07 pm

    Mum friends are vital. Mine keep me sane!

    Thanks for linking with #KCACOLS and we hope to see you again on Sunday.

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