As parents, we’re quick to blame ourselves when things go wrong. But one thing we’re not good at is giving ourselves credit. Parenting is hard enough as it is, so why are we making it harder?
It’s something which I know I’m guilty of.
Whilst pregnant I became fixated on the idea of implementing a bedtime routine. With my determination fuelled by Gina Ford, it caused more than a few disagreements. Never the less when Rory arrived I stuck to my guns and we agreed to establish a more relaxed bath and bed routine. Now at nine months he sleeps at least twelve hours a night in his own room. Yet when asked I will always say we’re just lucky. I never take any credit for it.
I’m not saying that my parenting style is the only reason Rory sleeps through. I’m sure there will be hundreds of parents who have tried a bedtime routine and not seen the results we have. As I’m equally sure that some babies just enjoy their sleep more than others. But why is it that we don’t feel that we can take any credit for our successes?
Are we too ashamed to share our parenting achievements in case we are ridiculed by others?
Or do we just feel it’s frowned upon to see ourselves as confident parents?
We live in a decade where it’s easy to shame someone’s parenting style that is different from your own. You can pass judgment from behind a screen and your criticism can damage the confidence of someone half way around the world. We need to stop critiquing each other and start celebrating our triumphs.
So what makes you a good mommy?
If you enjoyed this post why not take a look at weaning is hard!